Narcissistic Abuse Therapy
ONLINE NARCISSISM COUNSELLING IN EXETER, DEVON, UK
Welcome to Narcissistic Abuse Therapy
I'm Phil, a counsellor in Devon and I specialise in helping people understand and recover from narcissistic abuse. The effects of narcissism can be confusing and overwhelming, especially when it's a loved one, but I am here to guide you through.
I work online with adults (18+) seeking individual counselling and support in Devon and across the UK. As a BACP registered therapist, I draw on a range of approaches which allows me to tailor our work to your unique needs, whether you're looking for short-term support through a specific challenge or longer-term exploration in recovery from narcissistic abuse.
The Healing Power of Being Heard
Counselling is like having a compassionate companion as you explore the vast ocean of your inner world. It's a collaborative relationship where you're invited to speak openly about whatever's troubling you, without judgement or pressure. Together, we create a confidential space where you can explore your experiences, feelings, and patterns whilst healing from a relationship with a narcissist.
Narcissistic Abuse is a Societal Issue
Many people who are in relationship with a narcissist are isolated and not believed. Perpetrators often do a great job of wearing a mask in public presenting a charismatic and confident image, but then targeting people for abuse often behind closed doors. As a therapist trained in narcissistic abuse recovery, I can work collaboratively and compassionately with you.
Unlike talking with friends or family, counselling offers professional support focused entirely on you and your needs. Sometimes it involves working through difficult emotions, other times it's about discovering strengths and resources that have been buried and forgotten. The process isn't always comfortable, but it opens up possibilities for genuine transformation and growth that might otherwise remain unexplored.
Counselling for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Counselling can support you as you navigate relationships characterised by narcissism, from everyday stresses to profound life changes and more deep rooted patterns. If you're recovering from narcissistic abuse or antagonistic relational stress, I provide a space where your experiences are believed and validated, helping you rebuild your sense of self and reconnecting with what’s important to you.
Many clients come to narcissistic abuse counselling for help with anxiety, depression, rumination, grief, relationship difficulties, work stress, or life transitions. Others seek support with low self-esteem or questioning their identity following a relationship with a narcissist.
Healing from Relationships Characterised by Narcissism
If you've been in a relationship where you felt confused, belittled, or like you were constantly walking on eggshells, you might have experienced narcissistic abuse. It can leave you questioning your reality and worth. I understand. Together, we can help you rediscover your voice, rebuild trust in yourself, and explore a more meaning-driven life.
Working Online
I'm an online counsellor based in Exeter, Devon. Working online allows me to connect with people all across the UK and worldwide. Access counselling in the comfort of your own home.
Sessions & Fees
Initial consultation – 15 mins – Phone/Online - free
Standard sessions – 50 mins – Online - £60
I have a limited number of concession appointments available for anyone in financial difficulties. Please contact me for more information / to find out about availability for this.
Payment for each session is to be made by bank transfer, preferably 24 hours before the session.
Cancellation Policy
I understand that life happens, so if you are unable to attend a session, I ask that you provide at least 24 hours’ notice to avoid being charged for the session.
Frequently Asked Questions
We can explore what brings you to therapy and what is important to you. You may have something specific in mind to work on, but there is no right place to start. There is also no precise number of sessions; some people prefer weekly or fortnightly sessions, either short-term focused work or longer-term support for narcissistic abuse recovery.
Online counselling is as effective as face-to-face therapy. It’s best to have a private space where you won’t be interrupted or overheard and a stable internet connection. Safety is paramount for online counselling, so please make sure your environment is suitable. If privacy is not possible, I can refer you to another local therapist who can see you face-to-face.
You have a strong suspicion that someone you are in a relationship with is a narcissist, likely based on your experience of their patterns of behaviour. I am not able to offer a diagnosis; our therapy work focuses on you. What impact has this relationship had on you? What are your feelings about the situation? Let’s explore your responses, coping mechanisms, build your resources, and move towards what is truly important to you.
Trauma bonding occurs in relationships when a strong emotional and psychological attachment is formed, and experiences of abuse are combined with moments of positive reinforcement. Awareness of the different stages of the trauma bonding cycle is important. It’s normal to feel shame about not being able to leave an abusive relationship and about others not understanding you. Give yourself compassion when you struggle to leave, or return to an unhealthy relationship.
If you are reading this, you have a capacity for self-reflection and growth, which means it’s highly likely you are not the problem! One of the hallmarks of narcissistic abuse is when a survivor has been told repeatedly that they are the problem and they internalise this belief. Unpacking negative beliefs and shining a spotlight on the inner critic are essential in recovery from narcissistic relationships.
For me, the diagnosis is less important than being aware of how abusive behaviour has impacted you. It’s very normal to spend time trying to figure out why a person does what they do and if they have a personality disorder. It’s only when we turn the focus back to ourselves and take the reins of our own healing journey that change can happen. The work can be both liberating and uncomfortable, transitioning from being focused on others to tending to our own feelings and needs.
The two main types of narcissism are grandiose/overt and vulnerable/covert. Grandiose types are charismatic, outgoing, entitled, lacking empathy, and needing excessive admiration and validation from the external world. Vulnerable types present differently, with chronic victimhood, social anxiety, hypersensitivity to criticism and passive-aggressive behaviour.
Get in touch
I offer a free 15 minute phone consultation where we can talk about what's brought you here and how I might help. There's no pressure - just a chance to find out more and see if it feels right.
Top tip - therapy works best when you find a therapist who is the right fit for you!
Send me a message via or call me on 07897 053051 to arrange a time that works for you.
I aim to respond to all emails within 48 hours during weekdays.
Whether you're ready to book an initial consultation or simply have questions about how counselling might help. All enquiries are treated with complete confidentiality.
I look forward to hearing from you.
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